Who Am I When I’m Not a Mom or a Lawyer?

When Every Day Feels the Same

My daily routine is like a well-oiled machine—except it’s running on caffeine and chaos. It starts at 7 AM with intense breakfast negotiations (“No, you cannot have cookies”) and lunchbox debates. Then it’s off to work, where meetings fill the hours and time flies in a blur of deadlines and decision-making.

When I finally get home, the next round begins: “What’s for dinner?” battles, minor kid meltdowns at the table, and the bedtime circus. By 7:30 PM, the house is (mostly) quiet. And that’s when it hits me – Now what?

Usually, I don’t have much energy left, I fall back on the easy choice: one more episode of something on TV. Lately, it’s Sex and the City – which is kind of funny, because it reminds me of who I was in my younger, single, carefree days.

It makes me laugh, but it also makes me wonder:

Who am I now?

Because somewhere along the way, “Mom” and “Lawyer” became my entire identity. I live in either boss mode or mom mode, with barely a moment in between.

Losing Touch With the “Me” I Used to Know

When we finally manage to go out and do something for ourselves, we end up talking about the kids – automatically. It’s like my brain can’t think of anything else.

And when I do get a moment alone – when my partner takes the kids out – I sit there and think, what should I do? And honestly… I have no idea. That’s when it really hits me:

Wow, I don’t even know myself anymore.

Lately, I’ve felt this strong urge to rediscover the old me. The one who loved music. Who went out. Who had fun with friends. Who planned spontaneous city trips.

But at the same time, I feel guilty for even wanting that version of me back.

Why Reconnecting With Myself Matters

Still, I’ve realized that if I want to be a balanced mom and a more inspired professional, I have to make space for the other side of me – the creative, curious, joyful side that’s been waiting patiently.

So I started this blog.

Writing has become my creative outlet – a space to let my thoughts flow, to reflect, and to connect with other women who are also navigating this delicate dance of work and motherhood.

You Deserve to Find You Again

If you’ve asked yourself a similar “Who am I?” question, I want to tell you this:

Give yourself permission to explore what lights you up.

It’s not selfish – it’s self-care.

Finding yourself again is a journey worth taking.

Even for a busy mom.

Especially for her.

What’s one part of your ‘old self’ you’d love to bring back? Let’s inspire each other.