Legally Real Series 2# Can You Take the Kids Abroad? Traveling Internationally

As a working mom living abroad, I travel solo with my kids regularly. I grew up in Switzerland, and although I now live in the Netherlands with my family, my roots—and many loved ones—are still back home. While both countries are in the Schengen Area and border checks are minimal, traveling internationally with children as a solo parent brings legal complexity.

Whether you simply have a different last name than your children, you share custody, or you’re divorced, you may need documentation to prove you’re allowed to travel alone with your children—yes, even if you’re their mother.

So, if you’re wondering, Can I take my kids abroad alone? — the answer is yes, but with preparation.

Why International Travel with Children Can Be Legally Sensitive

Airports, border agents, and even airline staff are trained to monitor for international child abduction and custody violations.

Even if you’re legally and emotionally the primary caregiver, you could be questioned or delayed if you don’t have the proper documentation.

When You May Need Permission to Travel with Your Children

If you’re planning to travel internationally without the children’s other parent or legal guardian, you should prepare documentation—especially in the following situations:

• You and your child have different last names
• You share legal custody
• Your child holds dual citizenship
• You are not married to the co-parent
• You are divorced or separated
• The other parent lives in a different country

If you’re unsure, it’s always safer to have written consent from the other parent. This simple step can save you hours of stress or legal risk at the airport.

Documents to Bring When Traveling Abroad With Your Children

Here’s a helpful list of documents that can support a smooth and safe trip:

• Signed consent letter from the non-traveling parent (dated, with destination and travel dates) for each child. Template Consent Form Non-Traveling Parent
• Photocopy of the other parent’s passport or identity card
• Your children’s birth certificates (especially if your surnames differ)
• Divorce decree or custody agreement, if applicable

What Can Happen If You Don’t Have the Right Documents?

Even with the best intentions, lack of proper documentation can lead to:

• Being stopped at passport control or security
• Denied boarding or delayed departure
• Questioning by border authorities
• Potential legal actions or accusations of child abduction

The Emotional Side of Asking for Permission

Let’s be honest: requesting a signature from an ex or co-parent can feel awkward or triggering. You might feel like you’re just doing what any parent should be able to do freely—and yet, you’re stuck waiting for formal approval.

But here’s the truth: handling these logistics in advance is a form of self-care. You’re protecting your peace, your time, and your child’s experience.

Travel Tips for Solo Parents and Co-Parents

Here are a few travel tips I follow before heading abroad with my kids:

• Request written consent well in advance—not the night before
• Keep the documents in your phone and cloud for easy access but also bring hard copies of all documents
• Double-check any requirements for your destination and/or airline
• Communicate clearly with your co-parent, even if the relationship is strained

Final Thoughts: Travel Should Be About Joy, Not A Legal Risk

International travel as a solo parent may require more planning, but it shouldn’t steal the joy from your trip. With the right documents, thoughtful communication, and a bit of prep, you can focus on making memories—not explaining yourself to airport security.

Let’s Talk

Have you traveled internationally with your child on your own?
What documents did you bring—or wish you had?
Let’s share tips and support each other in the comments.